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23' mini-trawler
by Schucker

Janice aboard Seaweed,
living the good life afloat...

Trawler cruising on $14 per day is possible.
I'm doing it and you can too.

Janice Marois, nautical journalist.
Accredited member of Boat Writers International.

Here, I share my views on living aboard a small boat with very limited resources. Hopefully my successes will help others achieve the life. And yes, I'll share the things I did wrong too -- though not everything 'cause a girl's got to have her secrets!

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Date: 21 March 2019. Dating for Boaters - Part 5.

janice142
 

This is a multi-part series for those seeking a cruising partner. Part 5 follows. Here are links to the five articles:

  1. Dating for Boaters - Part 1
  2. Dating for Boaters - Part 2
  3. Dating for Boaters - Part 3
  4. Dating for Boaters - Part 4
  5. Dating for Boaters - Part 5 (you are here)


If you prefer to have everything
all on one page, this is the link for you:

Dating for Boaters (summary)
 

The summary has all five parts on one page. Some of my boat friends are on slow connections. For them, the shorter length articles are easier open.


Finding someone to share this world with can be difficult. Putting your entire boating life on hold because you haven't got a partner is not a good idea. Instead, get out here and look around. There are single folks on boats, albeit mostly men. Women have experienced those described in the If the Deck Shoe Fits article. You can surely do better than that!


I have observed boats cruising in tandem. That
means that two or more boats are traveling together.

 

Cruising in tandem first came to my attention back when I was younger, pre-cancer. I had intended to buy a NorSea27 with the eventual goal of long-distance blue-water traveling. I read about tandem night sailing from a sailor on Cruisers Forum at least a decade ago. This is how it works:
 

Two boats are heading the same direction at the same speed. After dark, Boat One sets their auto-pilot and the captain goes to his bunk. Boat Two watches over Boat One, keeping it within visual distance. That second captain is the *Watch for both boats.

*Watch: the person on watch is responsible for the safety of the boats. He or she checks for hazards, monitors the radio, verifies the compass course, looks for other vessels, and generally makes sure all continues to be a-okay.


A few hours later the watch Boat Two wakens (via VHF radio) the sleeping Boat One. The guy on Boat Two sets his auto-pilot while the rested captain on Boat One takes over as Watch, keeping an eye on both vessels. There is continually a person making sure all is well. If the weather turns foul, then the sleeping captain is awoken.

Side Note regarding being on Watch: Normally on night watch you survey the entire horizon every 15 minutes. As you can well imagine, no one can do that continually around the clock without serious sleep deprivation. By sharing the watch, two boats in tandem can maintain a good lookout AND get much needed rest.


This is C-Lover at sail on Tampa Bay. She has solar panels mounted atop her dinghy davits. C-Lover also has a wind generator. Making power when away from the dock is important.
 

Both captains are ultimately responsible for their own vessels. Cruising in tandem is  an option soloists should consider.
 

 

For the curious, here are details
of an aft cabin model NorSea27:

 

 

This was my Dream Boat for many years. I am grateful I never bought one as she would not be right for me at this stage of my life. I'm getting older, and frankly raising sails would be too much for me.

 


I thought the whole process of tandem cruising was so interesting I decided that if I were to ever do a passage (even a short overnight hop to the Bahamas) I would want to do so in tandem. This is a way for two soloists to arrive after an overnight voyage with both rested. Of course the boats must travel at the same speed.
 

Sometimes the boats traveling in tandem will raft up if the
waters are protected enough to make that a safe option.

Manatee and Houseboat Bob traveled in tandem.
Here they are rafted up in the Carrabelle River.


As for me, I rather like the idea of having someone nearby. It is nice to have that sense of purpose, companionship and Privacy too. Because Seaweed is my home, I shall have the best of both worlds.
 

I can enjoy company, and yet retain my own domain. A fellow boat owner who finds a cruising chick with her own vessel can have the same thing too. Each boat is able to enjoy companionship without giving up independence.
 

Skipper and I treasure quiet moments. We are
a silent duo, seldom making any noise at all.

I will admit that when a porpoise is nearby
Skip does bark like a lunatic. She loves dolphins.
 

For me, life aboard Seaweed is too wonderful to even consider "jumping ship" for another bigger, fancier boat. My home is practically perfect, except for the stuff that needs fixing, upgrading or replacing. Next on the list is to have a tuna door installed.


I know of a pair of sailboats that traveled together for quite some time. Ultimately they parted however each still retained a safety net, i.e. their own boat home. Perhaps that is the best way to travel...



Being on a boat is a wonderful thing. I am
very fortunate for my life aboard Seaweed.
 


Unfortunately, in the past few months I've done practically zero cruising with just sporadic evenings at anchor. I am getting back into the flow, albeit slowly.
 

I blink and another week or three has flashed by. In the meantime there are always projects. Little things seem to take the longest from start, through planning and then into fruition. I feel like I am accomplishing things, yet nothing is totally 100% finished. Argh!
 

 

This is the time of the year when I count my blessings. Two of them are here:

 

Baby and my Grand are wonderful.
 

Baby and Son-In-Law brought me with them to Disneyworld a while back. I told you about that in the Disney 2017 article. That is the vacation I will never forget. I am very blessed indeed. Thank you again Baby!

 


This entire series was brought about by a question from an online friend. He asked "Have you ever done any kind of survey on where your readers are? I would really like to meet some ladies here in the NW that live on boats. Or at least are not afraid of them. Lonesome adds in local publications don't seem to work. Perhaps you could do a personal column and let folks enter their stats and what and where they are? Thanks I read your columns most days and remember reading "where the girls are." (Where the Women Are) I may even go back to church, but I am a recovering Catholic."


My reply: I really don't know what will work for you, or anyone else for that matter. The items outlined in this series have been successful for some. Finding someone to share this life is possible. Partnerships develop and some stand the test of time. Happiness is finding joy in the life we are given.

 

 

Advice for those interested
in trying Online Dating

 

If you opt for making friends online using one of the services like Match or Plenty Of Fish may I suggest the following:
 

  • #1) Get a throw-away email address. Do not post your real one on an open board or you might get the quantity of email that makes it into my inbox. Trust me when I say you don't want that!

  • #2) Please stick with first names or nicknames. There are crazies in the world.

  • #3) Include a general location. Be safe and circumspect as to your specific coordinates.

  • #4) Age range (that doesn't mean to knock off 10 years either!)

  • #5) Do you smoke? For some that is a deal-breaker.
     

Please note that no where in that list do I suggest you exchange photographs. That is because after you get to know someone, their outward appearance is far less important than what is on the inside. For me, kindness and compassion are a much higher priority than what someone looks like.

 


I am totally happy that I have my Seaweed.
My home is incredibly important to me.

The alternative would be dreadful. I absolutely do not
 want to end up in one of those old people prisons.
 

A boat offers freedom. Life on the water is spectacular. Having acquired a level of decadence, my journey is so much better now than even a few years ago. If your boat is not comfortable, being able to explain what improvements are planned can alleviate concerns.
 

I know Seaweed has evolved since I purchased her. This boat is nothing like the shell I started with. Your vessel does not have to be Perfect provided you can articulate a plan for making her better.
 

Life as a soloist can change. Down the river may
 indeed be someone very Special with their own boat.

Traveling with another vessel (cruising in tandem) is a
 viable alternative to living together on the same boat.


I believe it can be better for a relationship if both people have their own boat. Everyone, especially those of us who have been solo for a long time, has quirks. I know I need my alone time. I want to think my own thoughts on a boat that is virtually silent.


Other people like radios, television and music. I'm not much for any of those things. Now I putter about the boat each day. Some days I simply curl up with my Kindle and read. Other days are spent enjoying a tablet. This one, a Verizon, is so beyond cool. I love it!
 


A huge thank you to the reader who provided
 me with this gem. It powers my online world.

 

But I digress...
If your life includes another individual, that is wonderful. Making friends is the key. Today after over eleven years aboard Seaweed, I am still corresponding with folks met at the start of this journey. Some I look forward to seeing again further along the waterways.


You want someone who is fun,
 interesting and without drama.
If both partners own their own
boat, you are indeed blessed.

 

In the  meantime I intend to embrace life, cruise in tandem and continue to enjoy my world aboard Seaweed. I wish the same for you: much happiness, beautiful sunsets and a fabulous journey along the waters of our planet.



 

 

 

Dating for Boaters Series
 Outline/Summary:

 

Number One: The likelihood of finding a partner while anchored off that enchanting small town is poor. You are a pain in the transom to visit so casual trips cannot be easily managed. Dinghy rides to a boat? No. Not at first for most ladies.

Solution: Bring your boat to the dock.

Number Two: Bars are out, unless you are looking for a floozy who drinks too much. Women and men of substance do not spend extended time in bars.

Number Three: If you want a woman, go where the women are. It really is that simple.

Number Four: Take classes or volunteer at organizations you support.

Number Five: Have coffee at a breakfast cafe near a local live-aboard marina.

Number Six: Talk to soloists at nautical flea markets and boat gear places. Ask opinions about gear they have used.

Number Seven: A dog is a good conversation starter. Asking a pet owner to give up their dog to go cruising with you is a Deal Breaker. The type of person who would consider a critter disposable is not the sort of individual I would ever want to have a relationship with!

Number Eight: Cruising in tandem is an opportunity to share the journey and keep separate homes/boats.

Advice for those opting for Online Dating: Get a throw-away email address. Stick with first names or nicknames. Include a general location and age range. Don't lie about your age! If you're focused on meeting someone twenty years younger and in perfect physical condition, the likelihood of success is near zero.
 

Be realistic. None of us are quite as young and fit as we imagine ourselves to be.

 


Good luck, and thank you for reading. 


Comments welcome and encouraged on the
Dating for Boaters - Part 5 page.

Categories: Boat Talk, Boats, Characters, Locations, Pets, Relationships, Wild Things,

 

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Skipper, First Mate extraordinaire


Of course every boat needs a Deck Swabbie. Mine, born in 2008, is a papillon mix. She weighs in at five pounds.


Coming soon ...

 


Topics of Interest:
You can achieve a simple satisfying life




Oh, a wondrous bird is the pelican!
His bill holds more than his belican.
He can take in his beak enough food for a week.
But I'm darned if I know how the helican.
(Poem by Dixon Lanier Merritt, 1879-1972.)


Aphorisms

For years I've been collecting short pithy statements otherwise known as aphorisms. If you're like me and enjoy the weird, go ahead and CLICK!

These are previously posted at the bottom of each article -- for new, you'll have to come visit again.




Seaweed is in St. Pete right now.
 

The above chart (#411) can be a wish book of sorts as you look over your domain and wonder where to go next. And yes, I do have the originals (sans red arrow) as jpeg's for download should you desire your own for closer perusal. Enjoy!


The Writer's Block

It's my belief that other folks who boat are some of the most interesting in the world. Inside every boater is a story. Let yours out! I'd love to post short stories, vignettes, or even longer articles that focus on some aspect of our life on or near the water. Suggested topics include:

1. I Remember When...
2. My First Boat
3. Who inspired you to be a boater?
4. Fishing Trips or Tricks
5. Or another subject of your choosing

For the novice, here's how to write: Simply pretend you're sending a letter to a friend. Tell about an event or a memory from years ago that you still recall.

Life has changed so much on the water since I was born aboard. Personally I'd love to hear your memories of life when you were younger. Boats were smaller, narrower, and much slower. Kids were kids and our families often shaped the adult we have become. Here are my two aboard the tow boat my dad ran for a time:
 


Your pictures would be wonderful too. I posted one of Boot Key Harbor taken in 2001 that has gotten quite a few downloads and really, that's not so terribly long ago... Do you have any photos to share? Email me.
 


Do you want to help out?
 

Often an article for the website will be completely written yet lack photographs. I like pictures and am looking for some for up-coming pieces:

  • Pets afloat (include pet and boat name please)

  • Any picture of boats underway or at anchor

  • Photos of people enjoying life in or on the water

Size: a minimum of 1000 pixels across please. If that doesn't make sense think bigger versus resized for emailing. I prefer the full-size version. Also, the name you'd like me to use when I add the copyright stuff to your picture. And thanks bunches!

My email address is janice@janice142.com


23' Schucker mini-trawler, circa 1983.

Thanks for visiting. If you happen to see my boat along the
waterways, give a call on Channel 16. I'm always listening.


click picture to enlarge

My home is not fancy by any means, however you cannot imagine how wonderful it is to come back to her after an expedition on shore.

If I can live this life, why not you too?


Skipper, First Mate
extraordinaire

Aphorism Alert: Begin doing what you want to now. We have only this moment, sparkling like a star in our hand, and melting like a snowflake. Marie Beyon Ray.

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