Date: 6 January 2015. Holiday Invitations
misconception I've too often seen stated online is: "When you go in a marina You will be the sailors home from the
Sea. Everyone will invite you aboard to feed you and ply you with
drinks in return for telling them sea Stories." Although I've only been out six years, I
have yet to find an open
invitation to any boat. I matters not if I'm in a marina or at an anchorage populated
by other boats. Newbies should not count on the generosity of fellow
couple I met who first touched the US after having left 17 years ago were
not "feted" though folks with vehicles did haul them to a grocery store.
Truly, what you can most expect as a traveler is for folks to want to come aboard
your boat and see it.
want to learn what you've had success with along with failures
experienced. And we want to see it first hand.
will look over your equipment, ask questions and such. But as for
invitations? That is less likely than the online world would have
the holidays... and out of the woodwork invitations arrive from
folks who have never invited you anyplace before. Suddenly you're alone and
they can "spare" you the agony of being an unwanted soul. It sucks.
you me, those of us who are solitary do talk about those
invitations. We wonder why you only appear in the days before
Thanksgiving, Christmas and Easter. Where were you weeks ago?
Christmas Gifts 101
Recently a few friends and I were chatting about
the invites we'd received to join folks for Christmas day. Some
were from virtual strangers and others from people best
described as *nodding acquaintances. We joked about the potential for
gifts were we to accept any invite.
Someone you nod 'hello' to in passing. Usually it's an individual
with whom you've never had a penetrating conversation and
could not name if your life depended upon it.
This is a list of
given sea gals on gift giving occasions:
- Perfume or scented lotions
- Bath soaps (we don't have tubs on our
Of course men are not spared. Boat guys can expect to find items such
- Neck ties with a nautical motif
- Shaving cream and brush (usually
gifted full-bearded men)
- Baseball caps
While we appreciate the
thought, the reality is for some of us a bit different. We're
simply not interested in gift exchanges with anyone we don't
particularly know well. What I would most like is a phone call and invitation
to ride along when you're headed
to a distant store.
Plus the thought of spending Christmas with strangers is less than
enticing. Frankly, it's intimidating and a bit scary too. I'd rather
not, you know?
the holidays nice however was an invention from the previous
century. The simple telephone allowed many of us out here to touch base.
Throughout the day I enjoyed catching up with other singles.
Everyone I knew who was both without local relatives and a soloist
opted to enjoy the day alone.
although I didn't ask, from the discussions of gifts (see lists
above) we avoided by staying home, it was a unanimous decision. All
had invitations elsewhere and chose our destiny. By late afternoon
however several of us admitted to missing the leftovers.
treasured the time to think back to earlier years. Many happy
memories were shared, especially with my friend Irene. Irene is a
great listener who has lead an interesting life.
It was such
fun to tell stories about when the children were young, and so were
we. Where did the years go? It seemed to me not so very long ago
that I had my duo.
Here are Son and Kidlet on the tow
boat my dad ran for a while down in the Florida Keys:
several calls, and received some too. It was fun. And to my good friend
who had cheesecake for breakfast? I'm seriously jealous. That
sounded just about perfect.
speaking with Kidlet I was pleased to know that her family's
Christmas morning included Cheese Danish. That's something I started
when she and Son were young ones. Publix bakery supplied it. I'd definitely recommend the
Publix version if you're near that grocery store chain.
outsiders we soloists were all free to spend the day as we pleased.
I read a couple of books. Have I mentioned lately how very much I
Kindle? It truly makes all the difference in my happiness
quotient -- I should have bought one long before.
aboard Seaweed was quiet. It was quite pleasant too.
I rearranging a couple of shelves in my canned goods locker.
one cup canning jars fit to the left of my pressure cooker.
Stacked two high, they won't topple.
it was the stuffed green pepper (bottom left jar) that caught my
attention. It became dinner aboard Seaweed on Christmas 2014. It
was delicious too.
I enjoy making treats for
myself and was particularly happy to have made these last year.
The recipe can be found in the
Canning Stuffed Green Peppers
article. The best time of the year to
make them is when the babies are in season -- the little ones
fit into the one cup wide mouth jars. If you've bigger jars,
disregard the previous sentence.
I spoke with on Christmas day was a universal joy at being afloat. Also
there were a few regrets. Many of us missed the plethora of food
choices offered on holidays. Even though I cook for self, there was not the great
variety of good things to eat. Have I mentioned leftovers?!?
forgotten to buy apples for a pie. Christmas without apple pie just
isn't the same. Mother's apple pie was one of my favorites...
Frankly though I can't see
inviting a single fellow over to Seaweed for food and drinks who
just arrived in port -- not unless there was to be a large gathering
of people. And as a single woman I'm careful. Out here all we have
is our reputation.
You, collectively, and me
too -- are nothing special. We are living our lives and should be
prepared to be self-sufficient. Holidays are no different.
What did you do for Christmas dinner?
Is there any holiday tradition you look forward to enjoying each year?
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