Date: 25 November 2013. Intriguing
Possibilities (boat cards)
The last article in the continuing series on potential
partner acquisition [Where the Women Are]
suggested strongly a couple of things. Of course you want a
person who shares a similar outlook on life and views of the big picture
on such as ethics, morals and such. Those devout will find many blessings in
church activities. For those so inclined colleges offer classes in a
variety of topics. Attend a class and for certain your fellow students
will have at least one thing in common, i.e. the class -- thus a shared
passion. And passion can lead to, well, passion!
Classes men should consider include not just Spanish, but
sewing and cooking. One gathering spot for ladies is a sewing class.
You'll be greatly outnumbered and goodness knows your boat will need
cushion covers, window shades, canvas work and such. You might as well
learn how to make them rather than paying extravagant amounts for them to
be professionally made. Chatting about why you're taking the class is
certain to arouse curiosity among the women.
Trust me when I say you should not take a class in yoga.
You won't look debonair nor suave and, well, it's not a place to impress
the ladies. Gyms are about the same -- you'll be surrounded by
20-something Twinkies in fine physical shape, and well, unless you're the
stand-in for Adonis, there's bound to be a 20-something fellow to catch
That said, a culinary class will teach you how to prepare
feasts and you'll again be surrounded by women. Women want to know how to
please as one way to a man's heart is through his stomach. Plus she'll
be able to cook and that's always a bonus. Additionally, there's a lot
good to be said for a man who knows his way around a galley.
I cooked dinner last night and learned a
valuable lesson. The smoke alarm works.
A foreign language class in Spanish for those of us heading
toward the Caribbean can lead to many possibilities and friendships.
After class sharing a coffee is always a good thing. There are several
reasons why stopping for a cup of java with a classmate is just about perfect.
From a budgetary standpoint, coffee isn't costly.
Because the coffee will be drunk in a relatively short
period of time you don't have to worry about a deep conversation.
And if things are going well, exchange phone numbers and
Speaking of phone numbers, you absolutely NEED a boat card
at this point. Boat cards (otherwise known in the dirt-dwelling world as
business cards) contain things you'd wish to share with fellow boaters.
Boat Card Primer
My cards have the boat's name, mine, Skipper, the
website, plus mailing address and telephone number. The
typical Boat Card also tells the name and size of the boat
along with a picture of the boat. Anyway, here are a few of
mine, with the personal stuff removed:
As you can see, boat
cards come in many formats. Mine all feature the boat as I'm
quite certain that's the most fascinating part for folks.
There were just six of these mini-trawlers built back in the
early 80's and as I understand it only three remain. Boat
folks quite naturally have some curiosity about unusual
Plus of course my crew
is there -- Skipper is quite the boat dog. On a few of the
cards her picture is featured and folks with pets always get
a card with my Deck Swabbie, aka First Mate Skipper.
Still your boat card is
a way to differentiate yourself from the average Joe on the
streets. You're living (or preparing to live) a life that
others only dream about. A gal getting a boat card is
certainly going to be intrigued.
So you've had coffee. Next comes lunch. After your next
class together, invite her to share a meal. Your choice of diner (please,
a diner -- not fast food, nor a full-blown, i.e. expensive restaurant,
unless of course your finances can manage that without issue) will be what
you can maintain. Do not go "all out" on these first meetings or:
She'll think you're made of money and will expect more in
the future (unless your finances are such that you can swing it)
and still I will advise not to do so, yet.
You'll want a gal who wants you for yourself, not the
thickness of your wallet.
If she's less accustomed to the more exclusive spots,
that's probably not a great thing for the conversation to flow and you do
want to get to know her.
Besides, you'll want to later impress her and if you've
gone all out from the first how can you top that? Diners -- real ones, not
the chain restaurant-diners, are your best bet. Your choice will show you're not
boring and willing to experiment to discover those out of the way places
that real folks habituate.
Be a girl with a mind, a woman with
attitude and a lady with class.
Ladies with our own boats could if we so desired find
fellows with relative ease. The simplest place boaters are is the local
marine hardware store but most likely they'll be owners of the little
center console boats versus cruisers. A better place would be a class in
celestial navigation or engine mechanics. Fellows like to show off their
skills and will definitely want to know more about your boat and you.
If you're so inclined that is. Of course weeding the wheat
from the chaff is a challenge. Some men seem to think coming on like a
bulldozer is a good thing. Others are so obtuse we're left clueless as to
if you're interested. Men are a confusing species.
Women are meant to be loved, not to be
understood. Oscar Wilde.
And where do you cruising fellows meet the ladies? This
works for both genders incidentally. Pull
into a nice marina and nearby you'll find a breakfast and lunch diner. Go
every day, have coffee and wait for an interesting individual to arrive. I've
heard from reliable sources that working women take lunch in diners along
the waterfront to admire the boats, and since you've got one of them...!
Ditto too the men who dream of one day sailing off.
The great thing is the other person is comfortable there and
when folks aren't nervous it's easier to chat and make the connection that
may lead to a full-blown Something. Asking questions is a good start --
most people like to talk about themselves but do be sure you don't turn
into an inquisitor! Nor should you tell your entire life story (leave out
the broken romances at this point) but do share your plans for cruising.
Also, though you may be planning to sail around the world
please focus on short term goals such as going to a near-by place dolphin
are known to frequent, or perhaps a beach a few miles up the coast where
seashells are in abundance. If the fishing is purported to be superb
nearby tell her you'd like to go there. Short term goals versus long are a
far better/more realistic sounding than the dreams of some distant future.
Otherwise you sound like either a braggart or a blowhard -- neither are
Most women like the familiar and if you're talking about
sailing far away from shore she's naturally going to worry. So start small
and, just like Redd in the
article, acclimate your intended to the positive aspects of your life.
How did you meet your cruising partner?
Did the partner come before or after the boat?
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