Date: 28 December 2013. We've Seen Worse.
There is a definite difference between the genders, and
when it comes to cruisers there are some that you (or more accurately, I)
have to wonder about. It's the old testosterone inclination of Macho
Man versus Sea. Almost every time the ocean will win and lessons can be
Carrabelle (red arrow) to
Cedar Key (blue) is a distance of
approximately 100 miles.
Just recently I listened to a group of trawlers
crossing the Gulf of Mexico heading toward Cedar Key. Several boats had
started out but conditions were a little hairier than anticipated. The
first to turn back was on the radio and I listened while she said:
"Listen guys, we're turning back. This is not comfortable
and we are cruising for fun. We'll see you further down the coast but we
are heading back into Carrabelle." Those continuing wished the returning
couple well and continued.
Later I listened while a couple of larger trawlers (40+
feet) were talking about taking the waves on the beam. That's
going to cause rolling which is an uncomfortable motion from side to side.
The lead captain had decided to head a bit further east to get a better
angle on the waves.
Still later I listened one more time to the two guys and
one said "We've seen worse" and all I could think to myself is:
That wife is not having fun and no amount
on the part of her captain is going to improve the situation.
They KNEW shortly after leaving that conditions were not
ideal. One boat came back. Rather than turn around, at least two others
decided to plow through to the destination.
At some point the wife of "We've seen worse" will have had
enough and she'll be on a plane back to her grandchildren. And the fellow
will wonder "what happened?!"
Know this: As Jeff Allen says "Happy Wife,
Also, if mamma isn't glad, everyone's going to be sad.
If the conditions are not ideal you should wait. Your partner
isn't going remain so if she cannot trust you to keep her safe.
When a couple of testosterone laden Type-A captains decide to cruise in
tandem, I hope for the best. Still, there's not much surprise on my part
when I find one or both boats further down the coast for sale.
Presuming you're smart enough to buy a boat and outfit her
well, realize that cruising can be wonderful with a partner who shares
your life. Keep her happy and toss out the schedule. Definitely plan on
taking advantage of those days when the weather is iffy by staying put. Those are the
days to read on your
play a game of
UpWords or just relax and
enjoy the life so many wish for.
We're already where we want to be: afloat. Nothing more is
Do you kibitz on the VHF too?
Also, has anything special happened/occurred because you chose to wait?
Running Aground ~
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